Dating Tips for Girls - The Question YOU Should Ask Yourself Today If You Want a Man
Here at You Can Get the Guy, one of the most common dating or relationship questions we get is, “What can I do to get my man to fall in love with me. I cannot tell you how many girls come seeking this magic pill type answer, but the thing is, they are all asking THE WRONG question. Can you guess what the question SHOULD be?
The real question should be “WHY should he fall in love with me?”
When a woman is looking for a date, husband or boyfriend, she invariably will have this huge list of features/attributes/habits that he should or should not have. They of course want him to have a great sense of humor, look like Brad Pitt, have enough money to support her in the style in which she would LIKE to become accustomed and he cannot smoke, chew, spit, fart or have a wandering eye. Oh – and no facial hair. Or weird piercings.
So – if you ever DO meet this guy, what is it that YOU have to offer HIM?
Hmmmmmm…good question. What is it that men are really looking for? Well, let’s talk about some of the things men really want.
First of all, let’s talk about character. No one wants to be with someone who lacks character, integrity and personality. Some of the qualities that men are looking for are as follows:
1 – Spontaneity – men love spontaneous and fun women . Be open to new adventure and fun and never forget your sense of humor. This is something that Christian Carter hits on in Catch Him and Keep Him eBook; it is one of the biggest things that can keep the spark in your relationship for the whole lifetime of the relationship.
2- Be mature and in control of yourself. Men do not like women who have temper tantrums. Do not be moody, needy or pouty.
3- Kindness – men equate kindness with love. Despite the women’s lib movement ? men still want women to be kind and generous, things like being rude to your waitress or sales clerk are a total turn-off to a man .
4- Honesty, in BOTH words and actions. One of a man’s greatest pet peeves is a girl who tersely replies, “Nothing.” When he asks what is wrong. Be honest in both your feelings and your wants and needs.
This list, of course, can go on for miles, but keep in mind the nature of these traits – they are all basically centered around the truth, kindness and basically a love of self. These are foundations stones of strong character. You have to love yourself and allow yourself to experience these things without reserve.
In addition, it is great for a woman to have a HOBBY and have some fun without him. DO NOT base your happiness on his. Let him know that you have a life outside of him and that you do not NEED him to be happy and content. This shows confidence and maturity and is the exact opposite of needy behavior. Needy behavior, according to Christian Carter, is the death knell of a relationship – it is men’s biggest turnoff.
Kind of going along with a hobby is a woman’s ability to enjoy the things HE likes. Wouldn’t you just LOVE IT if a man you were dating became interested in your pottery class or your love of reading? Imagine if you could do the same for him. By being open and ready for HIS likes, I am betting that he will be more open and ready to experience YOUR favorite things as well.
And this one may seem obvious, but take care of yourself. You do not have to be a model to attract a man . But YOU know what your best attributes are, use them! Take care of yourself, keep clean, healthy, and stay interested in the temple that is your body. It’s the only one you will ever have!
A fifth thing men love – self-reliance. Are you able to manage your own household? Can you check your oil? Run your own grill, computer, finances, etc? You won’t have to do these things for yourself forever if you find a mate, but men love it when a girl CAN.
There are so many facets to dating and relationships, it is difficult to really get in the know, especially when you may be getting bad dating advice from unknown sources. If you are looking to really GET A MAN and keep him, then you will want to learn all you can about dating. Check out Christian Carter’s eBook, Catch Him and Keep Him. It is full of dating advice for women on finding a great man and being able to hold onto him.